15 Things You Should Never Say To The Bride Slideshow
When a dear friend or family member of yours announces that she's getting married, it's natural to get excited. A bride-to-be is an exciting person to know! She'll be trying on wedding dresses, picking out coordinating colors, thinking about flowers, and tasting any number of delicious cakes in anticipation of her big day. If you're talking to an engaged woman, discussions about her wedding are bound to come up. But some things are better left unspoken.
“Are you changing your name?”
Whether or not someone changes their last name after marriage is a personal decision. It can be based on a variety of beliefs, traditions, professional needs, or simple desires. It's no one else's business what the bride is doing, so don't even open the debate.
“Are you excited/nervous for the wedding night?”
Unless you're the bride's bestie, she probably doesn't want to discuss her pre- or post-marital sex life with you. The conversation won't be anything except awkward for all parties involved.
“Are you worried the groom is going to get cold feet?”
No. She's not worried about it. And why are you even putting this idea in her mind?
“Attending your wedding cost a fortune!”
Everyone knows that attending weddings is expensive. You need to travel, get a hotel room, buy a new outfit, and purchase wedding gift. But no matter what you're spending to be a guest, know that the bride spent more to host you.
“Did you know 50 percent of marriages end in divorce?”
Don't even think of bringing up the D-word when talking to a bride. If we need to tell you why that's rude, you have problems we cannot solve.
“Is [blank] coming to your wedding?”
Compiling a guest list is one of the first things that a couple does when planning the wedding, and it's a touchy subject. Don't force a guest on a bride and don't inquire the reasoning behind why someone is or is not invited.
“How much was your dress?”
Whether the bride spent $20,000 on a custom-made couture gown or combed the racks for a great deal, she's going to look beautiful. Asking about money is always tacky, so just don't do it.
“How’s the bridal diet going?”
First of all, don't assume the bride is going to try to lose weight before her wedding. She doesn't have to! And if she is trying to shed a few pounds before walking down the aisle, let her diet in peace.
“I’m surprised you’re getting married (already/finally/again).”
You never know the inner workings of someone else's relationship. Whether the bride has been in a relationship for 10 years or 10 weeks, she knows that getting married is a serious decision. Trust her judgment.
“No one remembers the small details, anyway.”
OK, it is true that the average wedding guest won't remember the color of the napkins, how many toppings were offered at the ice cream soda bar, or that each table is supposed to have exactly 13 roses in the centerpiece. But the details matter to the bride. Let her sweat the small stuff.
“Oh, I saw that on Pinterest!”
Having a DIY wedding is a trend that shows no sign of slowing down. Yes, we've all seen that "Pick a seat not a side" sign, upcycled wine bottle vase, and that flip-flop bucket before. If these things fit her vision for her special day, then be supportive and enjoy them with her.
“Stop being such a bridezilla!”
Have you ever told someone to stop stressing and had it actually work? We didn't think so. Planning a wedding is stressful. If the bride is upset, let her vent.
“What was your wedding budget?”
Remember that question about how much a wedding dress cost? Yeah, this question is way worse than that one. Asking the cost per head, total budget, or even who paid for the wedding is a major no-no.
“When are you having kids?”
"First comes love, then comes marriage, then comes a baby in a baby carriage." That old poem is cute (we guess), but it's not how life works anymore. Maybe the couple doesn't want kids for a long time or doesn't want kids at all. Leave the family planning to the newlyweds.
“You’re getting married!? But you’re so young!”
Adults can make their own decisions. Yes, maybe getting married in one's early twenties isn't the norm anymore, but don't make the bride feel bad about her life choices. She's happy.